Monday, July 16, 2012


It's time for me to end a relationship.  I hate this part.  I've always hated saying goodbye to someone even when I know it's the right thing to do.  But at this point, I feel like I've done all I can do and said all I can say.  None of it seems to make a dent and I'm just tired.  

People change (or not), relationships change (sometimes), changes (always).  

So now the question do I end this? The last time I was in the dating world, this wouldn't even be a problem.  Texting didn't exist and email was just starting to become a way of communication.  Yes, I realize how old that statement makes me  

Maybe if I list the pros and cons of each choice, it'll help me make the decision.  Here we go...


Pro - I think it's obvious that I like to write and can be a little long winded.  I could get all my thoughts out at one time and then just be done.

Con - This is easy...I don't have his email address.  

Phone Call

Pro - Yeah, finding a pro on this one is hard.  The con will explain why.

Con - Oh, that's right...we NEVER talk on the phone.  And no, I'm not exaggerating.  It would be an act of God if he actually answered the phone when I called.  I'm starting to wonder if he is allergic to talking on the phone.  Maybe it makes him break out in hives or his throat swells shut.  


Pro - This is our his preferred method of communication.  You already know that he doesn't like to talk, so this is what I'm left with.  Seems a little fitting to use this method for that reason.

Con - I would send the text and then be fidgeting until he responded, which could be hours.  He's not a quick texter.  And he actually admitted the other night that he "only reads the important parts of the texts" so how can I even be sure that he would read it?  Of course, I wonder how you can determine if something is important or not without reading it.  Maybe I missed that class in college.  Hmph...


Pro - It's probably the most decent choice.  Ugh...

Con - Lord only knows when I will actually see him again.  Distance is a bit of an issue.  Plus I'm really afraid that he will try to put on more lip service about how things will change.  Fine...I'm a chicken...I admit it.


Pro - Short, sweet, and too the point.  

Con - I would have to know where he lives.

Acting Like I Disappeared 
(a.k.a. not responding to any future communication from him) 

Pro - By far, the easiest way out.  

Con - I might be a chicken, but I'm not a coward.  I do have some ounce of human decency left in me.  

What do you think?  Advice, thoughts, opinions???  

**Total side note...I think I've listened to this song about 10 times in a row.  Seriously can't get enough of it and I can't wait for the new album to come out!!


  1. You missed out 'act crazy so he finishes it first' hehe! Hmm, a text to say you want to talk about it and then up to him to either follow it up in text or arrange to see you and do it face to face. Have a friend with chocolate cake and wine on standby for afterwards though - never fun these things are they?! Good luck!

    1. Act crazy is a good one...if I ever saw him!!! Thanks for the support!

  2. Well seems to me, if you don't have his email address, you don't know where he lives, he doesn't answer your calls and only half ass reads your don't really owe him any explanation anyway!! Sounds like a relationship doomed from the start. Good luck!!! I'm easily the biggest coward when it comes to that stuff though....hence the century long hiatus from dating. LOL!!

    1. I seriously laughed out loud when I read your true!!! As one of my friends said "the beginning of a relationship should be flawless." Not this one!!

  3. I agree with "Graceful Disaster"-- I think you should just text him and if you are really ready to break it off then it doesnt matter if he writes back or not! :)

  4. oh lady! I know you said in your email that we have a lot in common, and you are right! I didn't read too far, so I don't have details from your blog yet, but I hated ending things, and I was in the same dilemma with a bf, as we lived 1hr away. I hope you find some peace and figure it out. I will be thinking of you!


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